There have actually been a lot of 'borders' drawn about this personality disorder and whether it should be thought about a personality disorder at all. Some would suggest that the features associated with this disorder are conditioned into the individual with external stimuli and therefore a personality disorder. Yet others would use that same argument to recommend that its not since the attributes are already imbedded within the specific and affected by external impact.
What is Meant by, 'Borderline?'
Borderline refers to the condition of being neither here nor there (personally) on any one topic or thing. The person will position that obligation upon those whom they connect with rather. Such individuals do not have self-empowerment, which is why they look for to obtain it through others.
Another reason has to do with a person with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) will have the tendency to likewise be wishy-washy when it comes to physical violence also. Indicating that a person with BPD will turn to physical violence if others engage in it first or show signs that it will obtain favor from others in some way. Yet normally could not even be a violent or even aggressive person-- this is exactly what 'Borderline' suggests and refers to.
Inner Aspects of Borderline Personality Disorder.
A person with BPD or emotionally unstable personality disorder is entirely reliant upon peer impact. Above all others, those with this specific condition are more vulnerable to peer pressure and quickly controlled by peer influence.
I can supply a number of examples about why I think it is driven by a person's need to feed off acceptance. For one, everything they do is entirely based on that fact. Which is why they tend to resemble that of Sociopathy, Psychopathy, Antisocial Personality Disorder, and even Manic Depression. They will rapidly convert to anything that is perceived to be the "appropriate standard."
Holding true even if such things are in direct violation of individual beliefs, moral codes, and the law. To put it bluntly, they will dedicate any act, absorb any concept or emotionally get in touch with exactly what is in trend at the moment. For example, if they see something on TELEVISION or in a film that strikes them as something that will get appeal they will pursue it (even if dangerous to him or herself or others). Such external influences can virtually come from any source (individuals, movies, TELEVISION programs, video games, and so on). For that reason the sole obligation and fault lies with the individual and not the source (as some wants to suggest).
Personally I believe all of us naturally gravitate towards a connection with other selves. But someone with BPD experiences a much stronger pull to that connection and perverse it into an impulsive requirement. Thus rationalizing it (unconsciously) that their extremely source of income depends on it. Generally somebody with BPD is an inverted Narcissist.
Instead of everything developing around oneself, an individual with BPD revolves their self-importance in those they relate to. Hence leaching off the energy discharged by such associations. This is what I referred to when speaking of "Borrowed Strength" in previous short articles. The attitude and desire to conveniently accept anything for the sake of fitting in with what is viewed to be the majority or even more effective. Even if they reasonably know its irrational, harmful and/or unsafe.
Signs of Borderline Personality Disorder.
A) Pertinent Presence of a "Void"-- The base reason for somebody with BPD's need to be accepted is the big void they are trying to fill within themselves. Since they depend and feed this void, it continuously keeps consuming their mental and psychological energy. Leaving hardly anything for oneself. So it is for this reason why they resort to filing it with the company, acceptance and association of others. Individuals often explain it as a feeling or experience of "Emptiness." Keep that in mind this sign is the core reason for all others that follow.
B) Extreme Fluctuation in Relationships-- As specified in the past, they will commonly readily adopt any ideology, methodology and prominent adjustment of others. No matter how bizarre, unreasonable or extreme such things are in nature. This is why you could see someone with BPD bouncing from one kind of individual, group or concept to another. Even if this consists of a total contrast or dramatic distinction.
C) Impulsive-- As clearly indicated, this type of individual will jump at any opportunity to feed that void using the recommended techniques. Which can be revealed in all areas in their lives. Some of which are benign or even more of an inconvenience than anything else. However, they do have some unsafe impulses. These include monetary splurges, careless sexual encounters, high volume consumption and intake of foods and substances, as well as vehicular and pedestrian navigation.
D) Lost Sense of the Self-- Because they easily and impulsively transform themselves to others, other's concepts and emotions they themselves ultimately lose sight of who they are. Leading to loss of identity. Such a feeling experienced in the magnitude of that which they do resembles understanding you are going to pass away and you are not sure of what's going to take place after. Such horror is the method they perceive the result of their own devices. Yet they feel vulnerable and do not know the best ways to fix it.
E) Emotional Instability-- Since they have actually been letting others tell them exactly how they ought to think, feel and act they lose the confidence to experience any feeling produced by him or herself. This ends up being a frightening thing. Much like how some people go crazy when they are left in silence with only their own ideas to keep them entertained.
Generally when one feels in this manner, they react in numerous different means. Much of which are extremely just like what you would expect from one who is frightened, inflamed, disappointed and irate. They can become drastically episodic, anxious, experience anxiety hikes, and impersonate in aggression. The period of such episodes will differ from minutes, minutes, hours to the unusual days (which is why it is often puzzled for Manic Depression or Post-traumatic Stress Disorder).
F) Intense Anger-- Usually when one ends up being emotionally puzzled we typically tend to respond by snapping of anger. Nevertheless, someone with BPD's level of temper is magnified in lots of ways. 1) either it is warranted and so they lack the have to manage it, 2) they could become baffled due to the fact that they are required to display feelings and ideas that are one-of-a-kind to them therefore they will respond with unacceptable temper, or 3) they may just simply have trouble regulating that temper in general. Usually revealed by regular or reoccurring displays, appearing to be furious at a constant, or taken part in run-ins often.
G) Paranoia-- The paranoia experienced by someone with BPD is based on being accepted by others. So their primary fear is that of being alienated, exiled and separated (or feeling as such). The fear can be found in with the self-generated belief that that is waiting every corner. So rather plainly, they regularly worry about exactly what others think about them. The constant stress of this state of presence is rather tiresome and taxing. Which is why they feel the need to latch onto the strength of others (so they can 'make it through').
H) Abandonment Issues-- Individuals with BPD quite often will go to wonderful measures to prevent feeling deserted. Sometimes such desertion is real, in some cases produced, and often self materialized. (Considering that their very presence counts on feeling accepted.) Think of exactly how they would feel if they were to be deserted or feel that they were. These are some of those individuals who seem to stick to abusive relationships or deal with damaging scenarios. Even if they have other healthier relationships, they might continue to be devoted (to some degree) to that unhealthy one.
I) Suicidal-- Most individuals with BPD when abandoned or feel that they have been deserted will turn to making use of suicide to control. This is generally a vacant hazard or deliberate failed attempts-- a last ditch effort. Utilized to get those who deserted them to reconnect and coddle their needs. Often this is available in the kind of self-mutilation and self-torture. But then there are those who fall so deep inside their own created void that they feel there is no other escape than in fatality.
The hopes of writing these posts are to direct you into noticing the pattern that reoccur within Borderline Personality Disorder (and any other for that matter). Everything is solely based upon feeding their need to fill their void with acceptance. Which is why their peers impulsively influence them. And such influence can originate from any source and in any kind. It matters not, for as long as it provides them with the fuel they need to prosper they care not.