There's a recurring argument - that can in fact end up being quite psychological and singing - that tried to identify whether a relative ought to throw the baby shower. Generally, the view has been that a relative need to not throw a baby shower, because it can appear that the relative is requesting presents. Yet traditions change, and there are times when a brother or sister, or a coz, or an aunt might be the suitable and somewhat hassle-free selection.

So what should you do? To address this, we can react with the best, and often most unsatisfying response of them all: it depends.

Sorry, however it truly does depend. If you hail from a rather conventional or traditional background, it may be smart to see that a non-relative is in charge of the infant shower. In addition, even if you, personally, are comfortable with a relative throwing the child shower, some of your friend and families - who could be less comfy with it than you - could object (or simply whisper about it behind your back).

Use your judgment below. Maybe the most useful guidance is this: if you can conveniently and pleasantly not have a relative run things, then that will likely be the best route to go. However, if that's simply not possible, possible, or chosen, then do not feel like you're someone from outer space due to the fact that you're connected to the mother-to-be. Increasingly more people are breaking with tradition; particularly since they feel that the understanding of a relative "requesting for presents" probably does not exist any longer.

Gifts (which we talk about further on in this book) are rather essential to child showers; it's quite tough to picture one without presents. Since that holds true, whether a relative demands them from those attending the infant shower, or a non-relative demands them, arguably isn't important to those attending. They're likely focused on exactly what the infant shower ought to focus on: the mother-to-be, and a terrific opportunity to share in her joy.